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Take Action! Dealing with alcohol and other drug problems in your family

It isn't easy being part of a family when there's a problem with alcohol or other drugs. You probably go through times when you feel stressed, lonely and really frustrated. There may even be days when you just want to run away from it all. Try some of these tips on how to cope.

Things You Can Do:

1. Remember, it's OK to be angry and still love and care for the family member with the problem. Even though your feelings may seem very strong and upsetting, it's normal to feel that way.
2. Don't blame yourself for the family member's problems with alcohol or other drugs. They are not your fault; you didn't cause them; you can't control or cure them.
3. Remind yourself you're not alone — other people like you are struggling with problems just like yours.
4. Try not to protect the person with the problem. Making excuses, like calling in sick to an employer, is not helpful in the long run.
5. Find a balance between helping and taking over. Sometimes teens, for example, out of genuine concern, will start doing things for their mother or father with a problem. They may put a parent who has passed out to bed, take care of younger brothers or sisters, clean, shop or pay bills. In the long run, “helping” in this way, by taking over, may not be in the family's best interest.
6. Try not to think about your family problems all of the time. Get involved in outside activities that will help you get on with your own life. Take up a hobby, join a club, play sports or volunteer. Be good to yourself.
7. Remember, your own health, safety and well-being are important. Even if you're not the one with the alcohol or other drug problem, you may need support. Know when you need to talk to another family member, a friend, a professional counsellor, your doctor or a member of the clergy. Ask for help if you need it.